I was just an option

She was perfect. Beautiful flawless skin clear of any blemishes. Long thick black hair. A body most men wish they could even touch. Come to find out most of them probably had. She wasnt perfect and I was fooled.

When we first met I just knew I had found the woman of my dreams.She was gorgeous, she could cook, she liked sports, and she didnt have any kids. It never quite hit me that she was too good to be true until I found out otherwise.I made her my sun and my world revolved around her.

Since we first got together she had male friends and why shouldnt she? She was a grown independent woman and I trusted her. Even though we didnt hold hands in the street and when i said 'I love you' her reply was 'I know u do'. So what she had missed a couple of dates or didnt answer her phone some nights. I mean she had to have a life too. It was okay she missed my birthday twice and I was the only one who bought Valentine's Day gifts. I loved her.




One night I woke up to her phone ringing. The ID simply read 'T'. I fought myself back and forth in my head for all of 2 seconds before walking into the bathroom to answer it. The husky male voice on the other end didnt wait for her to talk before saying 'Hey babe, u done with work yet?'. I hung up.

I watched the woman I thought I knew sleeping. He hadnt said much but he said enough. The phone vibrated again this time with a text message reading ' Why did u hang up? love u, call me back'. Love? How could he be in love with the woman who loved me. I mean she never said it but I knew she did. She had to as much as I loved her. Thats when I realized I had been in love by myself.

Things went downhill after that. I never spoke of the incident but it consumed me and made me open my eyes to just how much she didnt care, She still never said I love u. I still never met any of her friends. I still was playing the fool. Eventually i called her up one day to tell her it was over and all she said was 'okay'. I never heard from her again.

I was devastated. Hurt because the woman I loved and was faithful to never saw me in the same way. Mad she let me believe I was the only one recieving her affection. Feeling stupid for making her my all and i was just some guy she was seeing. But I had learned a hard lesson. Never give more then u recieve.

From The Other Woman

We have been called everything from home wrecker to slut to whore or whatever other degrading word you can think of. I'm the 'other woman' the 'bitch on the side' or most referred to as the 'sideline'. I'm ready to tell our side and why we do what we do and while I cant speak for everyone I can offer general knowledge of what goes on in the other woman's mind. If you cant handle the truth stop reading now before you get your feelings hurt.

First let me say most of us don't choose to be on the side and once we find out we are too deep in to just leave. We're offered false promises and are lied to about our position in their life. As far as we are concerned we were the most important and we were betrayed. The choice to still carry on with them when you find out your number two is involuntary and living a dream.

Then there are the ones like me who know and don't care. If I can get him to cheat I can get him to leave. When I see something I want I go for it and don't care about a ring on his finger or his relationship status because those things can be adjusted. As far as if he has children, not my kid, not my problem. Obviously there's something she's not doing for him that I can. And for the people who say you lose them how you get them, you wont as long as you do what you been doing that got them in the first place.

There are some of us who are just in it for the sex, period. You don't want to suck his dick, I will. You don't take it up the ass, I do. Its simple stuff like that which will make him cheat on you with me and I am more than willing to accept him when he comes. We don't want a relationship an when we see him getting too caught up we leave them for the next one with a girl at home. We just want the dick, you can deal with his emotions and bull crap like that.

Any woman can end up as the 'other woman', life is just uncertain like that. Whether you chose to be or not there are many of us out there and we are not going away. My advice is to do what your man wants. Sexually and emotionally, make him feel like a king and he wont stray. We fill the positions your lacking in. If more women just listened and tried to do what their man is asking of them they wouldn't have a need for any other woman because you would be their super woman.