Cheating

Yes we're gonna get into the topic that ruins most relationships, cheating. Anybody is capable of cheating no matter how much your in love or how much you care about someone. Its such a simple act that hold so many consequences. Not only can you damage your relationship beyond repair but you give the person you cheated with power over it.

The first question that crosses your mind when you find out your partner cheats is, why? Honestly the answer doesnt matter. The act was still done and the trust was still broken, but you still want to know. You want to know why they they betrayed you and wonder why you weren't enough for them.

There are tons of reasons people cheat and most of the time they dont mean to hurt the person they're committed to. Some dont know how to make the change to being faithful and being satisfied with just one person. Others arent satisfied sexually and instead of communicating it with their partner they communicate it with another between their sheets. Although cheating is just a distraction from their relationship problems most confuse it with a solution.

It is a common myth men cheat more then women. Many even say men are conquerors so they cant help it. Its all a lot of bullshit. Women cheat just as much as men and possibly more and for some reason it is just overlooked. Its just a relationship stereotype that needs to vanish. Just as fast as he can stick his dick in another woman , she can open her legs for another man and its just as wrong.

To sum it up cheating is wrong period. It doesnt do anything but put a strain on your relationship and possibly end it. If you feel the need to cheat just leave, period. Its not worth the heartache, lies, and hurt your going to cause your partner. If your cheated on, leave, even if you decide to go back. You have to show them its unacceptable and you wont tolerate it. Also, dont think you can hide it, the truth always reveals itself.

Pay Attention

Sometimes when your in love with someone you can be very oblivious to bullshit and cling on to a lot of words that are just that, words. Its always better to look at someones actions to know what they're really about but most people dont know how to do that so I'm here to tell you.
'I love you' are just words nothing more nothing less. When someone truly loves you all they want to do is make you smile. They are not happy unless you are. If you tell them something they are doing is making you uncomfortable they will do everything they can to change it because they care that much. They see the future as 'we' not 'you and them'.
If u havent heard it once then you've heard it a dozen times. Sex is not love. You may think your special because they always make time to see you but if its only to have sex that's all you are, a lay. Dont be fooled by the sappy text messages and the late night lets talk sexy phonecall. If the only time you truly spend together involves sex then your just fuck buddies plain and simple.
Another example, if only you and the person your with know your together, you are NOT in a relationship. Yea you see them everyday get a daily phonecall but you never go out. You've never been to their neighborhood or met any of their friends. You dont do public affection and you come off more as friends then lovers. Pay attention, things are not as serious as you think they are and your probably not the only one.
In other words if your frowning more then you're smiling then maybe you to need to rethink your situation. Love doesnt hurt, period. Now every moment wont be all cheese smiles but the bad should never outweigh the good most of the time.