Yes we're gonna get into the topic that ruins most relationships, cheating. Anybody is capable of cheating no matter how much your in love or how much you care about someone. Its such a simple act that hold so many consequences. Not only can you damage your relationship beyond repair but you give the person you cheated with power over it.
The first question that crosses your mind when you find out your partner cheats is, why? Honestly the answer doesnt matter. The act was still done and the trust was still broken, but you still want to know. You want to know why they they betrayed you and wonder why you weren't enough for them.
There are tons of reasons people cheat and most of the time they dont mean to hurt the person they're committed to. Some dont know how to make the change to being faithful and being satisfied with just one person. Others arent satisfied sexually and instead of communicating it with their partner they communicate it with another between their sheets. Although cheating is just a distraction from their relationship problems most confuse it with a solution.
It is a common myth men cheat more then women. Many even say men are conquerors so they cant help it. Its all a lot of bullshit. Women cheat just as much as men and possibly more and for some reason it is just overlooked. Its just a relationship stereotype that needs to vanish. Just as fast as he can stick his dick in another woman , she can open her legs for another man and its just as wrong.
To sum it up cheating is wrong period. It doesnt do anything but put a strain on your relationship and possibly end it. If you feel the need to cheat just leave, period. Its not worth the heartache, lies, and hurt your going to cause your partner. If your cheated on, leave, even if you decide to go back. You have to show them its unacceptable and you wont tolerate it. Also, dont think you can hide it, the truth always reveals itself.
Consider me that friend who tells u wat u need to know, not wat u want to hear.
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Cheating is the least of my worries in a relationship, but it does make me question whether it was my fault or my partner's that made everything sour between us. Cheating is the least of my worries because I will leave the unfaithful partner immediately as this blog suggests. No person is worth that memory of infidelity; it is like a button that will involuntarily click in your head for the rest of your life, based on certain circumstances that recall those events to your mind, and it won't hurt as much if you're not with the person. Everyone cheats for different reasons (I do it because I like to get caught, to be alone, and to have girls fight for me) but only an idiot stays with a cheater, no matter how much love there was before the instance. If the person cheats without getting caught, then you're up shit creek without a paddle because you'll be the butt of all jokes for the rest of the relationship. Advice for such a scenario is to pay attention to your partner, if you love them then that shouldn't be hard. And, a good rule of thumb for any relationship is when an ex moves on to the next partner, its best that you do the same.
Amen I completely agree!!!
so true... you really touched on that subject. Both cheat the same, women just are better at it and more discrete. But definitely a very true post. Glad you wrote about this!
I was with someone for 2 1/2 yrs and we were engaged, we promised to not have sex untill we got married... yeah right...he cheated on me and had 2 kids with someone else while we were together...the crazy part about it is the his whole family knew about it and no one cared enough to let me know even his mom knew. i would talk to her and she would talk to me like nothing was going on...its cool tho because now im happily married to the best man in the whole wide world ;)
For the most part I totally agree but people always tend to forget that cheating is more the physical it's emotionally as well. Sex isn't the only defination of cheating, as long as you allow yourself to have feeling for someone else outside your relationship it's cheating
How to know cheating?It starts with lies. Once you find out that your partner lied at you then there must be more lies you did not discover.And when you discover it once you need to watch it was the last lie made by the partner, if it is not then the cheating is going on.
The most important thing in cheating is emotional one. She/he might say and swear that she/he loves you just to keep you on board and not to break the long relationship.But in fact the relationship is alraedy broken.
What to do? It depends on you. If you really love some one you will understand the situation and live in a dream that one day she/he will come back emotionally to you only if she/he finds out that you are a special one and no one is like you and desrve your love.
But all depends on how strong is your lve.
Perhaps women cheat just as often as men, but I don't believe women cheat more (do you have any evidence)? The worst part about cheating is that men are more open about their cheating. Why is it okay for a man to be a "player", as "he's just being a guy", but women are called a plethora of horrible terms that have no male equivalent?
Good post - well said ;)
My boyfriend of two years has been having emotional affairs on the internet, stupidly i confronted him in a indirect way with my suspiscions and as a result he changed his passwords and now i can no longer access his social network accounts> I am in desperate need of what to do? All the signs are there indicating that he treats me like dirt, yet i'm still staying with him???this is just one of the many many problems we have in our relationship...there are are MUCH MORE
To cut things short with regards to my previous message of the problems that exist in our relationship i will care to mention a few that i can remember since there are just too many. Prior to dating my bofriend waited many years before i gave in and started to date him.Then things went slowly, first pressurizing me into doing sexual stuff that i wasnt comfortable with.He always knew that i was the type to wait for marriage to become sexually active. yet as time progressed so did his persisting nature and eventually gave in. since then things have progresses on a sexual level- ive had every kind of sex with him besides vaginal sex.before we started getting active i asked if he could get a hiv test done but refused because he claimed that it was insulting for me to ask him such stuff...my emotions got the better of me and i gave in anyway.We've been dating for two years and still i have not met his parents- he has excuses evertime and gets angry. Im excluded from anything important in his life.He doesnt phone me, text me anymore, and i hardly see him. If and when i do see him he doesnt even touch me or want anything else. He doesnt even make the effort of makinf plans to see me since we hardly get the chance to.This being after i confronted him several times that have suspiscions that he is indeed having emotional affairs with people over the internet. Ive nver hung out with his friends. all these problems have relusted in depression and lonilines yet this doesnt seem to bother him. There was even a point where i became self destructive taking pain meds, and relyin on sleeping pills as well as cutting myself.He obviously doesnt care enough to make our relationship work. Im planning on giving him an altimatum and even he cant be honest enough to come clean then he clearly has too much pride to embarrass himself to admit that he has been lying. i will not take him back if he cant even admit the truth, because how on earth is he able to try and fix things when he cant even be mature enough to acknowledge the most obvious of things.
i totally agree!!
haha you agree with which part?
Hi im a wife of a cheater,on Aug 29 /10 my husband came home @ 7am from hanging out (with friends).im an early bird person so once I woke up @ 5 am and didnt see him home my women insticts kicked in .once he came home drunk and passed out ,i checked his phone only to find a video of a girl giving him a blow job .i contacted the girl to have her think I was him got her first and last name .told her I was gonna make her famous with the video found out she had fb ,and posted it up and on you tube .that was to teach the idiot never do a video asshole and what was his punishment ? To never let him forget what he did to me ,so now u have to live with a GOOD WIFE GONE BAD...
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